I’m prepared to get quite a bit of hate for this. I am a white straight male, and I know that in the small world of tumblr, I am the scum of the earth. If I do so much as talk to a woman, it’s considered rape. Therefore, by that logic, I will sound like an immense hypocrite. But please hear me out.
It’s come to my understanding that the rape mantra of tumblr is “rape is NEVER the victim’s fault”, which is, without saying, 100% true. But there’s one thing we seem to be neglecting: ladies, please take care of yourselves. With the ever-increasing popularity of the “slut pride” philosophy, girls are going about and sleeping around with strangers to show their pride in being a slut. That’s all well and good, but out of all those guys that just want to get laid, there is one that might seriously hurt you if you don’t want him. If you get raped, it is not your fault at all. You should never be blamed for some asshole who made you suffer because he can’t control himself. But please do not voluntarily put yourself in a situation where this horrific kind of event might happen to you. For example, if you’re at a bar, club or party, and some creepy guy you don’t know is coming onto you, don’t stay around. LEAVE. If you leave your drink unattended, DON’T DRINK IT AND YOU SHOULD PROBABLY LEAVE. If you’re so drunk you can barely think rationally, please call a cab or get somebody to drive you home. DON’T get into a car with a guy who offers you a ride - he most likely wants to have sex with you, whether you want to or not.
I know sometimes rape situations are beyond your control. If you pass out or get knocked unconscious in the street, there’s really not much you can do about it, and that is full-fledged rape. Not to say that all other situations aren’t full-fledged rape either, because they are. But when you do have the ability to control your situation, please do so.
Also, women should look out for other women, even if you don’t know them. If you see a sleazy guy recklessly flirting with a
drunk woman, don’t assume everything is fine, because it probably isn’t. Jump into the situation. Tell the guy to f*** off. Ask the other woman if she’s okay, and call her a cab or offer to give her a ride home. As women, you should be looking out for one another, and protecting each other from these kinds of unfortunate events.
And I know for sure that there will be a few social justice warriors or pseudo-feminists commenting on here, saying crap like, “YOU WHITE CIS SEXIST MISOGYNIST SCUM!!!! YOU ARE BLAMING THE VICTIM!!! YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW ABOUT RAPE BECAUSE IT ONLY HAPPENS TO WOMEN SO WHY SHOULD YOU BE TALKING YOU RAPE SUPPORTER!!!!!!!!! I SHOULD BE ABLE TO GO WHERE I WANT WITHOUT THE FEAR OF GETTING RAPED!!!!” asdvadnbkldbnadlfkbldkfb NO. I am not at all insinuating that you can’t go wherever you want and not worry about a thing. Go right ahead. But regardless of where you go, there will always be horrible people that may try to take advantage of you. So please look after yourself and other women. And I am not victim blaming. I never said here once that you can’t go out partying with a provocative dress on, if you want to. The way you dress does not mean you are “asking for it”. Nor does talking to a guy who won’t stop talking to you. That is not a viable consent for sex.
All I’m saying is that you need to be careful and look out for yourself and others. You could be doing yourself, and somebody else, a huge favor.